There was a man who was having trouble with his
marriage. He and his wife grew to the
point that they didn’t communicate, and truly disliked the sight of each
other.
The man approached his father and asked “‘Father, I can't take it anymore. My wife is
driving me insane! She makes my life miserable, she goes out of her way to make
me feel bad and I just can’t stand the sight of her. I honestly want to kill her, but I'm afraid
someone might find out that I did it. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life
in prison but I just need a way out. Please
help me!
The Father replied “I
can help you, but there are a few things you will have to do, to make sure you are not looked at as a
suspect.”
The son replied “I will do anything. I am at a point that I myself
no longer want to live.”
The father went on to give him the rules.
1) You are going to have to make amends with her, so no one suspects
you are in a bad marriage. They can’t even see you speaking a single negative
word about her.
2) You will have to take very good care of her. Be kind, be grateful, be patient, be caring, be less
selfish, and listen more, help her with chores and anything she needs. Remember, people will be watching how you act
around her. How you treat her will determine how they see your marriage and
they will see in your actions how you feel. You have to truly play the
part.
Here is a powder. While you are making her breakfast every
morning put in one teaspoon of this in her orange juice. Then sit with her and speak to her about the
day ahead of you. Every day you have to
put a little in her food and it will eventually build up in her system and she
will slowly die.
Thirty days had gone by and the son came back to the father
and said “I have done what you said, on a daily basis and I have fed her the
poison, but somehow my mind has shifted.
I no longer want her to die! I have come to love her once again, with all of my heart, just
like I did when we first met and I feel she can see and feel the way I have
been treating her and she loves me again as well. How do I cut the effect of the poison?”
The father smiled and said “my son you already have. The powder I gave you was only rice powder.
It actually is good for you. Do not
worry she is not going to die. The only
poison that was there was the poison inside of you! Once you learned to love her again and to not
look at the negative, or the things that bothered you. When you started looking at the good things,
and remembering the things that made you fall in love in the first place. The
poison started to go away on its own. You truly healed yourself and saved your
marriage.”
When we feed grudges, look for the negative, only seeing
what is wrong, but never remind ourselves of what is right, our appreciation, admiration, good will, and of course our love slowly dies. When we make peace with
ourselves and with those who offend us, we learn to deal with one another on
an entirely different level. We learn to
treat those how we would like to be treated.
Then, and only then we will have the initiative to love, to
give, to offer, to serve, to care for others and live life to the fullest. You do not need to win alone or to be served
or to take advantage of and exploit someone else. You learn that the more you
do for others, the more you will feel the rewards.
We all need to stop, pray and ask for that antidote called
forgiveness and remind ourselves of love!
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